“Mumma, I don’t feel happy!”
“I don’t know… Maybe you cook for me, my favorite masala dosa and I will be happy again?!”
Year after year slid by slowly; and so, did nifty negotiations with Mumma.
Hot dosas are no longer a kitchen away but need elaborate planning & execution! That which felt like magic – now has revealed its painstaking paraphernalia of – overnight soaking, grinding, fermenting and then slathering onto a hot pan for a crispy moment of flaky happiness.
Mumma’s magic now happens once in many blue moons. Thus, my shortcut to happiness is a long way away!
In the words of, Sir W.Beran Wolfe –
“If you observe a really happy man you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony, educating his son, growing double Dahlias in his garden. He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar gold button that has rolled under the cupboard in his bedroom. He will have become aware that he is happy in the course of living 24 crowded hours of the day.”
One dreary day when a mail popped into my inbox, announcing an upcoming session of IBM Blue Voice Toastmasters; I chose to let go of the idea that my routinely overworked calendar of 18+ hours, would hinder my wish to be a Toastmaster. Rather I shuffled my activities, set a reminder and walked into a room full of surprisingly – ‘Happy’ people.
Few known faces, few unknown – but everyone in that very moment – in that session, looked incredibly – ‘Happy’!!!
I tiptoed & sunk into a nearby seat, still flummoxed, how? But minutes later; the contagious positivity seeped in and I was clapping along cheerily. Endorphins washed away my inhibitions & dopamine dispelled my doubts.
That was when it hit me – each person there, was simply truthfully present in the session, without tinkering on a gadget or distracted by dystopic imagination. Each had created own happiness by just being in the moment.
They didn’t wait for Mumma’s dosas!!!
Someone made his upma, someone made her uthappam and few even enjoyed making own dosas. The toastmasters that day taught me, don’t just wait – well, create your own happiness by reveling in the ‘Now’!