“Happiness does not come automatically. It is not a gift that good fortune bestows upon us and reversal of fortune takes back”
It depends on us alone. One does not become happy overnight, but with patient labor, day after day, happiness is constructed but that requires efforts & time.
Now, this is my personal experience, No one can give you true happiness except yourself, not your charming lover, best friend or sweetest family members can bring you the blue sky of happiness.
I read it somewhere that albert Einstein’s son asked him for secret of happiness & learning. To which Einstein replied succinctly that find something which makes you lose yourself or forget everything. That is secret of happiness.
I believe in above exposition from Head to Toe that when person is engaged in some challenging task, making progress, while fully absorbed, that is when he will feel profound satisfaction. According to research Happiness can be found in doing, never in thinking, no matter how pleasant you are thinking. Wandering mind is weak mind & unhappy mind whereas focused & mindful mind is happy mind.
There is term called “Flow” coined by Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. He states that Flow is state of mind in which a person is so involved in an activity that nothing else seems to matter, the experience is so enjoyable that people will continue to do it even at a great cost for sheer sake of doing it.
What contributes to the feeling of life worth living? In simple term, get yourself enter into flow /zone focusing on doing something so productively that it takes up all of your attention and you lose track of time. A person can make himself happy/miserable regardless of what is actually happening outside, just by switching from wandering mind to focused mind.
So, next time whenever you find yourself in the cloak of sadness, just pick up your favorite task to invest your mental energies and create your own happiness.